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Monday, September 18, 2017

Communicating with Touch
September 20


This week I took my family to the IPFW Family Picnic. What I had set out to do was see how many couples touched in public. What I did find is a lot of touching between parents and their children. Types of touches I witnessed were the following:
  • Children playing with their parents hair- loving
  • Dad patting daughter on back - saying hello
  • Dad rubbing baby's back - soothing
  • Daughter hugs onto to dad, one arm around his neck the other interlocked in his arm - being playful
  • Brother and sister hugging each other as they walk out the door - ecstatic
Each of these touches from my perspective were very appropriate and communicating intimacy between each other. My concern is that no parent interacted with each other or displayed any kind of affection to one another. I felt like that was a red flag and that something must be wrong or either it was because they do not show affection in front of their children in public. As we were leaving the picnic we finally saw one couple holding hands and this couple had no children with them. 

Just an added note:
Another interesting thing happened. A lady wanted to hold my infant granddaughter. She put out her hand and so did my granddaughter and just as the lady was about to take hold of granddaughter she rejected the lady by pulling her hand back.

Thursday, August 31, 2017

    👀Interpersonal Deception Theory👀

Student came into the office and wanted to borrow a pen for his class. My eyes perked up. The student looked at me as if I was going to say something insane to him (I was thinking it). He had the surprised look on his face. Maybe my presence made him nervous. We conversed for a bit. He stated his class was just down the hall and he needed to borrow a pen. He stated I will bring it back. However, just as I was getting ready to say “are you sure” he stated “I promise I will bring the pen back”. I gave him the pen and he hurried quickly out of the office. Of course I did not believe him. Students in the past have stated they would return the pen/pencil back. Unfortunately I had to leave the office, but when I returned the pen was sitting on my counter. That put a smile on my face. 😃

The role of this code was to see if I was being deceived, to detect through body language, voice tone, and facial expression. Watching his movements and his truly wide-eyed look, I came to the conclusion he would most likely return the pen because he was clearly and visably nervous. This encounter was brief, but my perception of  the student was solely based upon my past experiences The facial expression, body language, and the tone in his voice he showed me was very clear. As my grandmother always said "you can't judge a book by it's cover".

  • What I had to look for was familiarity (informational, behavioral, or relational) 
  • I had to check for Strategic behavior (intentional) or nonstrategic behavior (unintentional) 
  • Last thing I needed to do was access the situation - (was my sender believable)

1. What I have learned is that although this kind of thing happened several times before, I should not have judged the student
2. Just because a person is nervous does not mean they are lying
3. I actually thought I had the upper hand, because I just knew he was not going to return the pen
4. He got the better of me because he did return the pen
5. I realized I needed a sign up: