👀Interpersonal Deception Theory👀
Student came into the office and wanted to borrow a pen
for his class. My eyes perked up. The student looked at me as if I was going to
say something insane to him (I was thinking it). He had the surprised look
on his face. Maybe my presence made him nervous. We conversed for a bit. He stated his class was just down the hall and he needed to borrow a pen. He stated I will bring it back. However, just as I was
getting ready to say “are you sure” he stated “I promise I will bring the pen
back”. I gave
him the pen and he hurried quickly out of the office. Of course I did not believe him. Students in the past have
stated they would return the pen/pencil back. Unfortunately I had to leave the office, but when I returned the pen was sitting on my counter. That put a smile on my face. 😃
The role of this code was to see if I was being deceived, to detect through body language, voice tone, and facial expression. Watching his movements and his truly wide-eyed look, I came to the conclusion he would most likely return the pen because he was clearly and visably nervous. This encounter was brief, but my perception of the student was solely based upon my past experiences The facial expression, body language, and the tone in his voice he showed me was very clear. As my grandmother always said "you can't judge a book by it's cover".
1. What I have learned is that although this kind of thing happened several times before, I should not have judged the student
2. Just because a person is nervous does not mean they are lying
3. I actually thought I had the upper hand, because I just knew he was not going to return the pen
4. He got the better of me because he did return the pen
5. I realized I needed a sign up:
- What I had to look for was familiarity (informational, behavioral, or relational)
- I had to check for Strategic behavior (intentional) or nonstrategic behavior (unintentional)
- Last thing I needed to do was access the situation - (was my sender believable)
1. What I have learned is that although this kind of thing happened several times before, I should not have judged the student
2. Just because a person is nervous does not mean they are lying
3. I actually thought I had the upper hand, because I just knew he was not going to return the pen
4. He got the better of me because he did return the pen
5. I realized I needed a sign up: